Nobody understands

While I hate to be that person that wallows in grief, the pain is so bad! Besides my amazingly compassionate husband, feeling very alone! Unless you’re going through/been through infertility, people just don’t get the pain. “Chin up” starts getting maddening!

Our doctor said the other day, The Stress of infertility amounts to the same stress as losing a loved one, I can well believe it!

After telling people you’re going through fertility treatments, to be invited to dinner with another pregnant couple is shattering, smiling at story after story of their experience so far. You can’t blame the friends who’ve invited you, people don’t get it, and you can’t expect them to know.

Friends sending you constant photo’s of little Jonny’s new outfit, first step etc  gets ignored and one begins to just want to stay home, avoid all social contact, cause at the moment, no matter what you do, there is a happy, smiley baby couple.

Last Sunday the pain got so bad, just had enough, I turned to the bottle and drank myself into a complete state of black out. Really not the best option when trying to fall pregnant, but the loss, lonliness, longing just took over.

Guess there is a lot of acceptance to be learnt and one has to get out of bed everyday . .  . some days are easier than others!

4 comments on “Nobody understands

  1. I can completely relate to all of that. It absolutely sucks sometimes and as much as others may want to understand and empathise, they just can’t. Sending hugs x

  2. gardengirl29 says:

    I’m so sorry. I totally get it. I’ve been feeling that way, too, the past week (and I, too, downed a bunch of wine on Thursday, and it really helped, I hate to say). Nobody really does understand, except for other ladies who have gone/are going through it. It’s a very isolating experience, and there is nowhere to hide from all the babies and pregnancies. Case in point: I’m stuck going to my nephew’s birthday party tonight!

    I’m “only” on Month 10, and I can’t imagine the strength of those ladies who go through this for years.

    Hugs to you. Thanks for a well-written post that spoke to me.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s